5 TIPS sellers would give a buyer…If they Could!
Conventional wisdom says buyer and sellers go together like oil and water – that’s to say, they don’t go together at all. Some suggest they’re at odds simply by virtue of sitting across the bargaining table from one another, which presumes the two parties want different things.
But in reality, they want the same thing: a successful home sale! There are insights, however, that sellers have on their side of the table that buyers do not. So, in the interest of helping both sides move closer to their mutual goal, here are a few ‘Insider Secrets’ from a seller’s point of view.
The prime example of competing buyer and seller interest is this: the buyer wants to pay as little as possible, while the seller wants to get top dollar for the place. But there is another way to look at this entirely. In fact, there’s a point of view from which the buyer and the seller want exactly the same thing: the buyer wants to buy a home and the seller wants to sell it to them! And I’ve seen many buyers and sellers act cooperatively to achieve just that result.
Nevertheless, there are things that sellers can see from their side of the table that you as buyers, cannot. Sellers have insights into their own mindsets that, if revealed, can be very powerful tools in helping buyers optimize their approach, offer and interactions with the seller to both buyer’s and seller’s benefit.
So, in the interest of helping both buyers and sellers move closer to an outcome that helps them both achieve their mutual goal, here are a few of the Insider Secrets from the seller’s side of the bargaining table that they would tell buyers, if they could.
1. ‘Trash talking’ my house doesn’t make me want to sell it to you for less. To a seller, their home is their castle. It’s the place where they’ve raised their children, and has been the backdrop for many of their memories. It’s the asset into which they’ve invested the lion’s share of their memories. It’s an intensive expression of their personal tastes. And it’s also the asset they must convert into as much money as possible to move forward with the next phase of their lives.
All that being said, the average seller knows most things about their home that you can see with the naked eye. So if you,as a buyer, think trash talking a home, points out obvious flaws or issues is a good strategy for getting the price down, rest assured that you are not telling the seller anything they don’t already know when they set the list price.
In fact, you might very well be doing your case more harm than good, as the strategy is highly likely to alienate and insult the seller whose cooperation you seek. If you feel strongly that something about a property makes it less valuable than the other homes you have seen, the seller seems to have based the list price on it. Work with your agent on how best to communicate your offer price rationale to the listing agent in a way that is diplomatic and fact-based.
2. Knowing that you have cash makes me comfortable taking your offer. With distressed properties, over-asking multiple offers, and the generally warm-to-hot seller’s market in many areas, it has become increasingly common for sellers to request proof of a buyer’s “cash to close.” (This usually takes the form of bank or other asset account statements, with the sensitive account number information blacked out for security purposes.) Some buyers in competitive situations have begun to proactively offered such proof, even when it hasn’t been requested, and even for non-cash offers.
Other buyers, though, take offense. Why shouldn’t the mortgage pre-approval letter be enough? Why should you have to jump through yet one more documentation hoop? Is the seller just plain nosy? Why are they all in your business? One word: Comfort. Over the last few years, the number of home sale transactions that went into – ‘and fell out of – escrow due to last minute loan problems of pre-approved buyers hit a record high. While this is awful for buyers to go through, it’s even more disruptive for sellers, who are relying on the transaction to close in the time frame the buyer provided to move forward with their own lives.
It’s also a ‘worst case’ scenario for a seller who had 5 offers on the table to choose one and then have it fall out of escrow later on. And sellers’ agents know this – often, the issues which derail a buyer’s loan can be resolved with money, extra cash down, extra cash at closing, extra cash to put in escrow for post-closing repairs required by the lender or the city. So, providing that you have more cash than you appear to need to close the deal doesn’t necessarily set you up for the seller to ask for more cash – but it might help them feel that you’re the buyer most likely to sidestep mortgage obstacles and seal the deal.
3. It’s all about the ‘Offer Price’ – but ‘Close Ability’ is a close second! Buyers be on notice – all the love letters, cute dog pictures and the best cookies in the world will not make your offer win out over the others that are offering significantly higher than yours, financially speaking.
Now, please don’t write in telling me about the case of your cousin’s dog groomer’s tarot card reader who got a home for less that 10 other offers because she helped the little old lady seller take her garbage cans to the curb – truth be known, most little old ladies need cash to get through their later years!
There is always an exception to the rule, and it does sometimes happen that a seller will take a slightly lower offer than the highest one for one reason or another. But if you’re trying to create a plan that stacks the decks in your favor in a multiple offer situation, your first priority should be to offer as much as you can, without spending beyond what is affordable for you and beyond the home’s fair market value. That being said, sellers also care – a lot – about how likely the offer they accept is going to close escrow.
And when multiple offers get so numerous and so frenzied that buyers seem to be throwing money at your home, smart sellers pay attention to the fact that their home might very well not appraise at a crazily higher price and focus on offers that seem realistic and close-able, which can mean offers below the highest bid.
Approval letters, proof of cash to close, the professionalism with which the offer is prepared and presented (see below), and even things like your credit score, your choice of mortgage broker/professional – all these things contribute to or detract from a seller’s estimation of how close-able your offer is. If you’re competing against other offers, you should be maxing out both your price and your offer’s closing ability, as evidence by these characteristics.
4. Your agent represents you to the ‘World of Sellers’. Choose wisely. (See above) A buyer’s broker or agent has a lot of influence on whether the transaction closes, and how smooth or bumpy the ride is. If your agent’s level of professionalism is lacking, it will show – and listing agents might actually rank your offer below others, in terms of close-ability. If your agent’s level of professionalism is stellar, the opposite can occur.
Before you choose a real estate agent, consider the agents sale history. A proven track record establishes the experience that will see you through the ‘ups and downs’ of any sale. Is the Realtor and agent or a broker? I always recommend working with an agent/broker with at least 5 years in the business and of course the more ‘real estate’ related education…the better. Real estate brokers simply have more real estate knowledge due to the requirements needed to obtain a ‘Brokers license’. Furthermore, in talking with your future agent, the agent should be able to explain the buying process to you so that you fee comfortable as well as giving you a clear understanding of the process.
The reality is that getting the offer accepted is just the beginning for you, you will need to find an agent that looks after your best interest from start to finish.
5. Ask nicely! The old adage…’You catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar’ is true. The conventional narrative about buyers and sellers is that they are adversaries. But I’ve been around the block a few times, and I think the average buyer would be absolutely shocked at the number of times sellers are actually ready, willing and able to agree to their requests throughout a transaction. This is especially the case where:
- The buyers’ requests are reasonable and not “Nickel & Dime” nitpicks
- The buyers phrase their requests nicely
- The buyers have been living up to their end of the bargain throughout the of the transaction
Compare this with buyers who try to hold seller’s hostage to their requests with the threat that they’ll kill the deal if the seller doesn’t do every single penny-ante thing the buyer wants.
I’ve seen sellers agree to leave valuable personal property behind, have repairs made, give thousands of dollars in repair credits or price reductions after a concerning inspection report – despite a hot seller’s market – all because they were good people, could afford to, and the buyer’s approach was more sweet than sour.